Over time, I have become a more patient person. I would consider myself a hyperactive person, and I definitely would say that I can have a short attention span. As I get older, I am finding that I am calming down a bit, and I am so much better at being patient in situations that would have made the old me go crazy. It is true that you mellow out every year, but I also have done some exercises that have allowed me to get to the point that I am today! Here are some tips that have helped me become more patient.
First things first, you need to find the cause of your impatience. Certain things are triggers, and the only way to become a more patient person, is to truly understand what is making you impatient. For example, it could be waiting for an elevator that is on the slow side, or rush hour traffic. How about walking behind an elderly person, and not having enough room to safely pass them. I know, I have been there. By realizing the cause of your patience, it forces you to understand the meaning behind your reactions. Since avoidance of most of these triggers is impossible, it helps to comprehend the reasons, and help with finding a way to manage these symptoms.
This is going to sound crazy, but when you start to feel like you are about to go into an impatient rage, start to slow yourself down completely. I do this all the time. When I become impatient, everything speeds up…from the way that I talk, to my movements, and my walk. If you slow everything down, you will instinctively become calmer. If you are around people, they will not even notice that you are impatient. Soon, you will see that you have tricked your own body into being calm.
Always tell yourself that impatience does not make a situation move any faster. All that it does is increase your stress level. What also happens in the process is that you will start to find yourself not being able to do things that you may need to be doing, because you are so fixated on being impatient.
Taking deep breaths also helps me when I start to see myself getting to the impatient zone. I don’t count down or anything, but shallow breaths are known to help slow down your heart rate, and allows you to regain control over your emotions.
Remember, emotions will get the best of us from time to time. The way that you react to a condition is entirely up to you. There is always a choice. Impatience can also affect your home and family life in a negative way. We all have to coexist in this world. Choose patience!! With work, it can be achieved. It is never to late to put in the work, especially of it means bettering yourself.